![]() There have been 'Aha' Moments ranging from literally realising how important it is to be a great father to finally getting help with clutter in the home (it was huge!) to why saving up to go to the casino really is a bad idea. I have used this exercise countless times with clients and they have always learned something about themselves and what really matters. ![]() NOW your client can make an informed choice on what they choose to prioritise and work on. Review: Well, there it is in black and white-they key to a happy and balanced life! Porsche 1 ½, Being a great father 6½. So let's say being a father gets a score of 6½ out of 8. The Porsche is scored against every area until, let's say they get a score of 1½ out of a possible 8.Ģ) Be a great father: Well, it may not improve their finances much or their career (although you never know) but it will help their relationships, fun, perhaps health, definitely personal growth etc. Will it improve their Fun? Yes (score 1). Will it improve their relationships with family and friends? Probably not. Score each goal against the Wheel of Life Categoriesġ) Porsche: Will it improve their Finances? No. (OK, so I know YOU know the answer here and your client may 'intellectually' know the answer, but let's see how this goes.) Let's assume two of the items on a client's list are 1) Buy a Porsche and 2) Be a great father. What about SMART Goals? See our Complete Guide to SMART Goals here > Helpful Example If you were to prioritise your Top 3 (or 5) goals from this list, which goals would you choose?.How does this exercise affect the priority they will place on their goals going forwards?.How do they feel after doing this exercise?.What have they learned about themselves?.What do they notice about their scores?.Now review with your client which Be/Do/Haves or goals get the highest and lowest scores.Keep going until each Be/Do/Have or goal has been scored against all the Wheel of Life categories.TIP: ½ points can also be allocated if appropriate. TIP: Using check or tally marks where people make a vertical line for each point, then striking through diagonally on the 5th point to create groups of 5 works well. Then for each "Be/Do/Have" or goal on their list, ask your client to give that item ONE point for EACH area on the Wheel of Life that is improved.Next, ask your client to take each item or goal and using the standard Wheel of Life template categories ask, "Will achieving this goal improve my satisfaction in this area?". ![]() TIP: You can do this in session, but it's great to give this step as homework beforehand. TIP: I call this the "Wacky Wild Brainstorming List" and ask clients to write everything they can think of to "Be, Do or Have", no matter how wacky or wild! One great way to do this is to ask them to, "List everything they want to Be, Do and Have in Life". First, get your client to list or brainstorm their goals in life.This scoring process helps people see what will TRULY make a difference in their lives as opposed to what they THINK will improve their lives. It is a scoring exercise-but it's so much more than a straight left-brained 'pros and cons' evaluation. The exercise below helps people differentiate between desires (often born from fear, or from needing to bolster our sense of self) and the heart (our deep inner needs). How to Use the Wheel of Life Template to Identify Meaningful Goals Background Want to know more about The Wheel of Life? Try The Complete Guide to the Wheel of Life > So, here's one way the Wheel of Life Template can help our clients create meaningful goals-and perhaps have an 'Aha moment' too. This method can also help clients prioritise their goals in life. Below I share a method of using the Wheel of Life to help people see where they may be unknowingly sabotaging their happiness by focusing on the 'wrong' kind of goals. ![]() The Wheel of Life Template is not just a powerful check-in and action planner. And when our clients finally see this for themselves, it can be literally life-changing for them. ![]() But as coaches know, our desires and our heart's true needs can be very different. When our hearts beat faster like this, we often mistake desire for our heart's deep inner needs. How often have you seen clients more excited by the prospect of a new home, high powered job, brand new car or designer pair of shoes than the thought of quality time with a child, partner or friends? ![]()
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